by Julie Kelly
The topic du jour is balance, as I was recently exposed to the idea that there is no such thing as balance. Hmm, interesting concept and something to think about. If we define balance as an even distribution of weight/tasks/responsibilities to ensure our lives are in constant harmony, then perhaps the concept of balance is a false reality.
The more I pondered this and analyzed my day-to-day life, I quickly realized that I did not have a lot of balance, based on any definition which insinuates an even distribution. One area of my life usually dominated any single day, and each day was different to the next. I know this blows many mantras out of the water, however when I recounted my days, I found that the tasks that consumed the majority of a 24-hour window, and consequently skewed the idea of balance in my life, were actually the things I loved to do and would repeat over and over again.
So instead of thinking about having balance in your life, which I believe for working women and mothers is a moot point, think about filling the majority of your days with the things that bring you happiness, a sense of purpose and fulfillment, peace, excitement, motivation, energy, gratitude and love.
This could ultimately mean changing jobs or even quitting all together to be a stay-at-home mother, finding a hobby or volunteer position that fills a personal need, starting a business, focusing more on your personal life instead of your career, making the time for family dinners or simply making more time for yourself.
The opportunities are endless and unique to you, your lifestyle choices and what you want for your future. I encourage you, as soon as you finish reading this article, to make a list of what would bring you happiness, a sense of fulfillment and so on, and if your lifestyle is already accommodating you then you’re on the right track.
If you have felt lost and need a new direction, and a greater sense of purpose, study your list and then find ways to incorporate what you need to live an authentic life. You are the only person in control of your destiny.
If you focus on filling your days with one or more of these essential elements to a meaningful existence, then the idea of balance is replaced with completeness.