How To Deal With Difficult Coworkers At Work

By Demond L Jackson


It’s amazing how much power your coworkers have over your happiness at work, or lack thereof. If you have a great relationship with your coworkers, your overall work experience can be vibrant and healthy. On the other hand, if there are less than harmonious relationships, going to work everyday can be a challenge. In this article, I wanted to share some ideas I recommend to my clients which I believe can be beneficial to you.

First thing first, challenges with your coworkers are not a valid reason to resign and start looking for a new job. That is always a last resort. The first step is to identify what the root of the problem really is. There can be many reasons why your coworkers are being so difficult. Really think about it. Many times the cause of the coworker disagreements have nothing to do with you. However, try to identify if somehow you caused the issues.

Next, it’s time to have a conversation with the person or people you are having an issue with. It will be difficult, I guarantee. However, it is necessary if you really desire to resolve whatever issues they are having with you. Be as polite and professional as you can. Try to get them to open up to you about what is troubling them. It may be helpful to take a supervisor or a neutral third party with you.

Be open and honest about how you feel. Let it be known that you feel uncomfortable when they talk behind your back or whatever the case may be. Be proud to stand up for yourself. No one deserves to be mistreated at work.

If you were not able resolve the issue by confronting the individual, it may be time to consult with your supervisor or human resource representative. Explain the situation as you see it. Let them know you tried resolving the issue by yourself with not much success. Ask your superior for help. One disrespectful, condescending coworker can remove all the joy you have for the job. Let your superiors know you expect some type of investigation that will lead to a resolution.

Certain issues are simple and can easily be corrected. Other issues are traumatic and may cause you so much pain, you just don’t know what to do. Try to be the bigger person as much as you can. Dealing with difficult coworkers is a pain in the rear. They take all the fun our of your job. I believe by taking the actions mentioned above, you will be well on your way to a peaceful, happy workplace again.




Motivation and Success Coach Demond has written a simple, yet powerful guide named: Finding Happiness In The Workplace. It was written for anyone who is having any work related issues that causes unhappiness at work.: