by Michelle Hammond, Assistant Professor of Management at Oakland University in Rochester
Ever have a really bad day at work and find your spouse getting crabby too? What about a moment you were really proud of your kids and it gave your co-workers a lighter mood and energy boost?
Recent theory and empirical support has suggested this happens through a spillover-crossover model. First, spillover occurs, then it crosses-over to others in our network.
Spillover: We bring experiences, thoughts, moods and self-perceptions from work to home and vice versa. What happens at work affects me while I’m home. What happens at home affects me at work.
Crossover: The experiences, thoughts, moods and self-perceptions that spillover from one domain to another have implication and effects on other people in our networks. So my work experiences not only affect me, but also my family members. What happens in my family affects my co-workers and boss too!
How does this happen? There are three basic ways that crossover occurs:
Direct crossover: This is based on empathy in which experiences, emotions, and psychological states are shared within relationships. I see my husband upset about an injustice at work and I feel upset too on his behalf. Researchers use the term “empathic identification” and suggest this type of crossover is more likely to occur when individuals pay close attention to each other and are viewed as interdependent, less independently. This is most likely to happen in close relationships where people collaborate and share together, like spouses, and close co-workers.
Indirect crossover: This occurs usually as a result of one person’s behaviors in response to their stressor or positive experiences. For example, if I was a ball of stress under a tight timeline at work, I might be very short with my spouse and kids. My yelling and snappy responses, might make them feel bad about themselves and zap their energy. Research has focused on undermining behavior as a common way this happens. Undermining involves showing hostility, anger, criticism, and a bit of “sabotaging” their plans by making their life just a little more difficult. But we shouldn’t forget that indirect crossover happens in positive ways too! A little bit of positive feedback at work can make us better at family life too!
Commons stressors and resources: Often, certain things from one aspect of our lives are direct stressors or resources for others in our network. An unanticipated work trip means a spouse has to rearrange their schedule too, but a bonus can mean more money for the family!
Taking this together, it makes a lot of sense and we can easily relate to spillover and all three types of crossover. Without much thought, we know this is true because we’ve lived it. So what’s the point? I think there are a few main take-away points and ponderings.
1. Crossover effects are stronger in close relationships. So as to avoid the weight of someone else’s world, we might be tempted to distance ourselves. However, the very act of caring, listening, and responding with empathy, has benefits for ourselves and others. Remember in close relationships, we take the good with the bad. And research suggests, helping other people (called a tend-and-befriend response) has physical and psychological benefits to our own stress response, and even longevity.
2. This should create an awareness in our own management of the boundaries between work and home. Are we “kicking the dog” for our frustrations at work? What can we do to transition from one role to becoming truly present in the other role?
3. As leaders, managers, and employees, are we aware that our actions at work have implication not only for our employees, but also for their friends and family? If we were truly cognisant of this, would it change the way we lead?
About the author
Michelle is an Assistant Professor of Management at Oakland University in Rochester, Michigan. She earned her M.S. and Ph.D. in Industrial/Organizational Psychology from the Pennsylvania State University. She seeks to understand the process of leadership development across multiple domains of life. Her work also focuses on understanding the influence of leadership on employee well-being at work, including factors such as meaningful work, work-life balance, and creativity and innovation. She co-authored an award-winning book on leader development entitled An Integrative Theory of Leader Development: Connecting Adult Development, Identity, and Expertise and has published in top academic journals including the Academy of Management Review, Human Resource Management Review, Journal of Vocational Behavior, and Journal of Managerial Psychology, among others. She also taught for almost 10 years at the University of Limerick, in Ireland.